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Success Can Be Quiet

Success can be quiet

It’s ok to be quietly successful.  Really.   
In today’s terms we defining ‘success’ by being ‘known’.  It seems we are in an age that to be ‘successful’ you have to keep giving away more and more and more of yourself and your work.  It’s not enough to simply be great at what you do anymore.  You have to shout about it, blog about it, tweet about it, Instagram it and if your super lucky get ‘featured’ for it.  You’ve got to have ‘blogs’ and ‘followers’, ‘likes’ and ‘feeds’.  And were not talking small scale we are talking BIG BIG BIG numbers.  Like, less than 360,000 and who are you?
Society will have you believe that unless you are featured in a highly successful newspaper, magazine or even ideally on TV, then clearly, you are NO-ONE!!
You might as well not bother.  Right?
Er no, totally wrong.
I think society’s mindset currently is stopping some amazing people doing some amazing things. And that is what bothers me.
There are so many of you guys who have a gift and I don’t want you to hold it back because of society’s views.
I want you to live big no matter what. 
It isn’t right that the only way to be successful is to have all of the above.
Success can be quiet.
Success can be under the radar and most importantly success can be defined in your own terms.
If you are waiting to do something amazing, but think there is no point because it is not big enough, I would like to ask you to expand.
Expand your mind. Expand your thinking and expand your actions…I’d also like to offer you some tips.

  1. Define success in real terms for you.  Are you living how you want to live?  Are you loving and giving and doing all that you can to get your work out?  If you are, you’re successful because you are not sitting on your ass.
  2. Have you ever grown from a really tough experience?  Then you’re successful because you didn’t stay in your misery and you learnt an important lesson.
  3. Are you working on your ‘personal development’  are you working on becoming a better human being, a better person that is giving back to people, to our planet, being kind and considerate?  Are you conscious and aware?  Super cool. You hit success because being awake is uncommon.
  4. Do you have good friendships and loving relationships around you? That is success in itself.

Don’t get taken in by having to prove yourself.  Don’t rely on how many followers you have on social media or how many likes a picture gets. Instead just promise yourself that you will be the best you that you can be, without anyone else’s approval.
Put out into the world the real and authentic you. You can’t be more successful than that.
Love

Jacqueline


Depression

You’ve been diagnosed with depression. What do you do now?

Tackle your mental health head on with a little help from Jacqueline our GQ Therapist. This week: how to deal with depression…

Dear GQ Therapist,
I have been to the doctor and been diagnosed with depression and they have talked about me taking medication. Is that the best course of action or should I consider other options? I don’t want to rush into taking drugs, but I need to do something to feel better.
Steve, by email

First and foremost – and I know we say this a lot – you are not alone: depression can affect anyone at any time. The Mental Health Organisation statistics show that in 2014, 19.7 per cent of people in the UK aged 16 and over showed symptoms of anxiety or depression, which was a 1.5 per cent increase from 2013. From what I have seen in my office, the numbers are increasing.

Most people go through periods of feeling down, but when you’re depressed you feel persistently sad for weeks or months, rather than just a few days. Depression can make you feel helpless. And yet I want you to know you’re not, because there’s a lot you can do on your own to fight back. Medication is an option, of course, but it’s only one of many that you can choose from. Choosing a more holistic route works for many people and often has even better results than medication. Changing your behavior, for example, your physical activity, lifestyle, food choices and, most importantly, your way of thinking are all natural depression treatments.

1. Prioritise mind management
It’s of the utmost importance to learn how to manage one’s mind. In my personal coaching sessions with clients and in school with students, I teach people how to focus and manage their minds because once they understand this aspect, their lives change. It’s amazing to see people become happier and start living authentically, all thanks to a focused and managed mind. Simply put, minds that are managed get better results, guaranteed.

2. Learn to switch off
It’s important to switch off because you are giving your mind a break, and all minds need a break. To learn how to do this takes practice. For some, it’s about writing things down; for others, it’s about creating a space and a time in your day or night to simply stop. My top tip is to schedule time in your diary to switch off – literally call it switch-off time. Take a hot bath, read a book, bake some nourishing food, turn off the iPhone/iPad/TV and go back to basics.

3. Beat workplace woes

Stress is a feeling generated by a thought, so I recommend people start to look at their own thoughts rather than blaming anyone else at work. Ultimately, no one can make you feel anything; you create your feelings from your thoughts, and choosing thoughts that create stress is painful for you and you only. Start to consider what you are thinking about or write thoughts down. Are the thoughts you’re creating helpful or hurtful? If it’s the latter, start to find a new perspective – choosing better-feeling thoughts is always the answer.

4. Accept the things you cannot change
So much stress and anxiety is caused by trying to control things that are beyond our control. When I first got into mind-management work, I recalled the Serenity Prayer: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Being fed up and depressed about things you cannot control or influence is a pointless task. This often makes depression worse because it creates feelings of uselessness and low self-worth. You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. The past is a great teacher. Use its lessons to create a better now.

5. Find a work-life balance: Where are you happy? 
If the answer is working 24/7 then fine, go ahead. But if you are happy only working 9-5, then it’s important to balance out the times when you are not working. Balance comes in the form of joy – anything you find joyful could be part of your “balance”. Another tip is to learn how to say “no” effortlessly. Once you get on the no train, you’ll realise how much more time you have. It’s important to remember that life is short, life is there to be lived, experienced and enjoyed; it is not a trudge, it is a blessing.

There is a link between junk food and depression. Serotonin (the feel-good hormone) is made in the gut and, as result, poor gut health can impact your mood. A study published in the Public Health Nutrition journal revealed that consumers of fast food are 51 per cent more likely to develop depression when compared to those who eat little or none. It is likely, then, that the more junk we eat, the greater risk we are of not only bad digestion but also risk of depression.

7. Getting active (especially in nature) 
We spend most of our time at work, sitting down, yet we are not designed to sit in a chair all day. Neither are we designed to be inside all day long. Taking some cardiovascular exercise probably has the biggest impact on mood and reducing stress. It’s really hard to still feel crap after a long walk in nature. Spending time in nature reconnects us with our natural environment and helps to balance mood.

8. Practise gratitude
Another favorite saying of mine is you cannot be grateful and depressed at the same time. And it is so true. Gratitude is a massive help in challenging your mindset. Making time each day to appreciate all you have to be grateful for shifts your focus to the positives in your life. It can be tiny things to huge things. Having legs to walk, eyes to see, a roof over your head – all things to be grateful for. Gratitude is the antidote to fear, anxiety and depression. It takes practice and it might feel a bit dumb at the start, but I promise you if you practice it daily, you will see your life and your feelings change.

See the full article here


Discipline

I like discipline a lot. I think its good for us. It keeps us sane and ordered.
I really believe the most successful people in life exert discipline on a daily basis in some form or other.
Discipline is a vital part of a healthy lifestyle and without it, the world around us would be chaos. Imagine if no-one had any discipline at all to do anything. We’d all be a mess.
Discipline brings stability and structure into a person’s life. It teaches us to be responsible and respectful. In my humble opinion, it is a form of self respect.
Discipline is incredibly useful on the journey of self development. It helps us create a better understanding of ourselves and with that comes better self esteem. And it starts and ends with discipline.
When I first got clean over 15 years ago, I learnt that discipline was everything.
I learnt that I had to set an alarm to get to a meeting. I learnt I had to attend a meeting three times a day to stay clean. I learnt that I had to brush my teeth and my hair every day.
I know many of you who know me wouldn’t believe that sentence but that’s the truth.
I had to learn discipline and little by little, day by day, I got well.
Discipline is all well and good but it can also have a very negative affect on people’s lives if it is used in a way to self harm or self destruct.  By this I mean using discipline as a whip to ‘better yourself to perfection’ which of course we all know by now, does not exist.
Discipline can be dressed up as addiction if you’re not careful.

  • Addicted to exercise to get the perfect body (but I’m disciplined I go to the gym every day )
  • Addicted to work (but I cant let my team down I have to be at work for 3 hours extra every night)
  • Addicted to the perfect body (but I can’t eat this or that or that or this)
  • Addicted to being perfect ( I have to do this to get there and I cant stop until I do even if I am at breaking point, my health is at risk and my friends are worried about me)

Today I want you to have a little think about where in your life, if anywhere, discipline may have turned into disaster (!) and you are over exerting your discipline into something that may not be healthy.
It’s likely something will pop into your mind and when it does just go gentle.  Ask yourself how you can be a little kinder to yourself, where you can relax the reigns a little or where you can go a little slower.
Sometimes changing one tiny thing can lead to massive change.
Slowly slowly lovely reader
Love,
 
Jacqueline  x


New Job Anxiety?

As some as you may know I been given a new role of GQ’s in-house therapist and life coach. What an honor! Each month I will be answering questions from their readers and for starters, how to cope with insecurities surrounding a new job.  This article is actually a great read if you ever feel anxious or insecure as it has some really cool tips to help you, so if you are struggling or know someone who is, then this article is for you.

Dear GQ Therapist,
I am starting a new job next month, and I’m already anxious about it. I will have more responsibility, there will be more pressure, and I am not sure I can cope with the step up. What should I do?

Dear New Job,
Being anxious about your new job does not sound like fun and I am sure you feel that this is something you should be really proud of, so it’s probably even harder for you that you are in fact feeling anxious. I am here to help you move from anxiety and fear to confidence with six easy tips below, but in the mean time I want you to know that this problem you are experiencing is a syndrome that is more common than you realise. You are certainly not alone.

This syndrome has anxiety as a pre-requisite and fear is the fuel to the fire. So many people feel like imposters to the point where we even have a name for this: it’s called “imposter syndrome”. It can happen to anyone at any time and usually the more responsibility a job holds the more this syndrome works its way around and around the mind. The thoughts range from “I’m not good enough” and “I’ll never be able to do this”, to “I’m going to be found out” or “exposed as a fraud” and the problem is all these thoughts are terrifying and sometimes simply even debilitating. The good news is it doesn’t have to be this way…

2. No one is perfect. Learn to take your mistakes in stride, viewing them as a natural part of the process. There will never be the “perfect time,” and your work will never be 100% flawless. The sooner you’re able to accept that, the better off you’ll be. I like to think of life like an athlete; they have to lose in order to learn how to win. They have to make mistakes in order to get better. Start thinking like this and the word failure will leave your vocabulary.

3. Remember that you aren’t alone. Imposter syndrome is common and many people feel like this – entrepreneurs, celebrities and many famous people have it. The thing is, it’s not dinner-party conversation. No one sits down and discusses how scared they are, but trust me those people do exist and they are the ones sitting opposite you on a train or next to you at the pub. They just aren’t telling you. You are not alone and you are not different or less than or not capable. You are real and remember, no one is ever “perfect”.

4. Take a look at all the evidence. Deep down, you already know the reasons as to why you “can” do this job; why you “can” handle responsibility; and why you “can” handle pressure effortlessly. I promise you when you start looking for evidence to back up the positive, you will find it. You just need to look. Start now by recounting your most recent accomplishments. Take a look at everything you’ve achieved, and reflect on all the hard work you’ve put in to get to where you are now. Embrace the fact that you got yourself to where you are. You’ve earned your place where you are today, and it is your accomplishments that are proof of that.

5. An important thing to remember is that YOU got the job. You got it because other people clearly believed in you and your skills. You did not pull a fast one on anyone. You did not lie and cheat your way into this job. Your boss or whoever hired you is likely not an idiot. Don’t doubt the intelligence of those who hired you, they have made deliberate choices based on your experience and potential. You really do deserve to be there.

With effort and mental reprogramming, you can learn to overcome your doubt and celebrate your accomplishments. It’s no easy task, but imagine how liberated you’ll feel once your feelings of anxiety and fears of “getting found out” subside.

You can read the full article in GQ Magazine here


Helping Others

In life, you get what you put in.
When you make a positive impact in someone else’s life, you also make a positive impact in your own life.
The more you help others, the more they will want to help you.
Love and kindness begets love and kindness.
There is nothing better when you feel down, to lift someone else up.
And you don’t even have to feel down to do it…(!)
There is no better way to break up a self-pity party by taking your focus off yourself and helping another.
One of the fastest ways to feel better is to simply give back.
It’s a proven fact.
The universe is funny like that.
If you go out and make good things happen, you will soon find that the good stuff just comes back to you.  Twofold.
There is a Chinese saying that reads: “If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.”
For centuries, the greatest thinkers have suggested the same thing: Happiness is found in helping others.
I don’t think they were wrong.
Why not give it a try and help someone it doesn’t have to be a big grand gesture even something small can be profound and see for yourself how that makes you feel.
Being kind is the cool.
Oh, and the happiness bit that always comes with it, well that’s just an added benefit!
Go go go go go!


GQ Wellness Plan

The boys at GQ gave me a call and asked if I could help advise how to simply ‘ Plan your wellness year ahead’.  It was food for thought as I was wanted to write something original and have some practical and helpful tips.  It came out well and I wanted to share this article with you here…enjoy!

How to plan your wellness year ahead

When it comes to health and wellness, planning is key. Focusing on what you want your year to look like and creating a plan to follow is a sure-fire way to making it happen. Think of it like an athlete, to become the best you need to plan and practice. 2018 can be your best year yet and to help, here are clinical hypnotherapist and London life coach, Jacqueline Hurst’s, top seven tips

Reflect

Take a few moments and look back on 2017 and ask yourself some questions. What did you do really well? What did you achieve that you were proud of? What did you not get around to doing that you would like to do this year? Where did you experience the most satisfaction? Where and when did you have the most “fun”? What areas of your life didn’t work out so well? What lessons did you learn and what did you discover about yourself? Your answers to these questions will provide some interesting clues and insights into what you need to focus on and get around to doing that can make this year your best yet.

Set a goal

When we put our mind to something we really want to do, it is totally achievable. All you have to do is believe it. Believing you can, means you will. When you think about the summer what would you want to have achieved by then? What do you need to do to motivate yourself to make that happen? When you think about Christmas, what would you like to say you have achieved this year? Now is the time to make an action plan to get a goal achieved this year. There is a tonne of motivational information around for you whether it be a book to read, an audiobook to listen to, a coach to help you or buddying up with someone who wants the same thing. Don’t forget to choose a goal that interests you and plot your progress as you go. Remember, we become what we repeatedly do.

Fuel up and keep it simple

The food you eat really matters when it comes to thinking about your health, energy and wellbeing. Eating well makes you feel good and the better you feel, the easier it is to keep a healthy lifestyle going and 10 pints just wont look so attractive. The easiest way to start is to keep things super simple. You can never go wrong with foods with one ingredient – chicken, meat, vegetables, rice, potatoes. This isn’t always so easy when you are busy at work and out grabbing a sandwich so in those times, just make sure it’s something as close to nature as possible and keep to a four to five ingredient rule. Remember, if a product has more than five ingredients in it, it’s likely to be highly processed which means energy drain.

Get present

Time goes fast and goes even faster when we are unconscious and unaware. One moment it’s January and the next its September. Learning to be present is one of the best gifts you can give to yourself. A good way to learn how to get present is to start your day with a ten-minute meditation. Meditation is a perfect way to learn how to slow down and take life more in your stride. It helps calm anxiety, it helps stress dissipate and it helps you become a nicer person. Getting present is about awareness, and becoming mindful means you automatically start to enjoy life more. The little things that used to stress you out become a thing of the past and everything becomes just that bit “easier”. Try it.

Do it now

Don’t make the mistake of playing the “yes, but when I get there” game. So many of us think that only when we have something different to now, will we be happy. “When I make CEO, lose the stone, get the million, buy the bigger house etc etc etc, then I’ll finally be happy”. I hate to break it to you but the truth is happiness is a mindset. It’s something you chose. This month now you are conscious and aware, make better choices. It’s all about an attitude of “Yes I can.“’.

Let shit go

We all have things that we carry around with us that weigh us down but are not actually ours to carry. Holding onto resentments or anger is exhausting and learning to let go is the best thing you can do for yourself. Make a list of situations you have experienced in your past that you are willing to finally let go this month. Let it go, stop taking it all so personally and remember that anger doesn’t ever serve you. Let it go.

Evaluate your crew

When did you last stop and evaluate who you hang with? Apparently, we are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with. If you look at your top five are those people you actually like spending time with or people you feel you have to? When did you last actually reflect on your circle of friends. Are these people who are supportive, helpful, kind and bring out your best? If not, now is the time to re-evaluate. Make a commitment to invest your time in good company over the next 12 months and distance yourself from people who are negative or energy-draining.

Adjust your Attitude

One of the most important things to do this year is to remind yourself daily that your attitude determines everything. Life is 10 per cent what happens and 90 per cent your attitude. The most important decision to make each day is to be in a good mood.


Beat the Blues

My friends at Space NK asked me for a little advice on how to beat the blues this January.  As a big beliver in self care during this month, I also got to choose some of my favourite beauty products to share alongside my tips. If you are feeling a little blue, then this article is for you…
January is a tough month: we’ve all enjoyed a cosy Christmas but now the decorations are down, it’s dark and cold and springtime seems forever away. However, January is also the month of beginnings, the start of the year and a great time to assess, re-balance and put our own happiness at the forefront for the rest of the year. With that in mind, we asked London life coach and happiness expert, Jacqueline Hurst for some advice, “In the 15 years I have been working as a coach, January is by far the one month where people feel more ‘blue’ than usual. Long winter nights and cold weather can make any of us feel a little fed up but, if you know how to manage your mind, the January Blues can disappear.” Here’s how to stay positive…
1. Learn to switch off
The internet has many wonderful benefits, but it can also mean working 24-hours a day, being bombarded by news and in touch with friends and family constantly. Of course relationships are incredibly important for happiness, but make an effort to wrap up warm and visit those pals for meaningful face-to-face contact instead of relying on technology. And, as Jacqueline reminds us “taking time out to look after yourself is key during January. Use the winter nights to create a lovely routine of hot baths, candles, warm meals and snuggling up with your loved ones.” To ensure your home feels like a happy, warm sanctuary utilise the flickering light of aromatic scented candles. Choose a mood-boosting fragrance like Diptyque Roses with its spring-like, uplifting rose scent, or hunker down with the cosy Diptyque Feu de Bois, reminiscent of a crackling fire.
2. Find a good balance
Prioritise the things in life that are most important to you and look for ways to weight your life more heavily towards them. Even if it’s as simple as booking an extra yoga class each week or setting an alarm so you leave the office on time more often, small changes can make a big difference to your happiness. “Stop trying to be perfect,” says Jacqueline. “Perfect just does not exist. It makes us feel inferior and like we are not ‘good enough’, ever! You were not born to spend your life trying to reach unrealistic expectations. Start to own your uniqueness and speak kindly to yourself reminding yourself you are doing your best and your best is good enough.”
When it comes to your skin, balanced skin is happy skin, and a regular skincare regime will not only leave your complexion glowing, but has a happiness-boosting ritualistic aspect too. We love aromatic cleansing balms as they need to be massaged in and allow you to connect with both your skin and facial muscles. Try the classic Eve Lom Cleanser or Sunday Riley Blue Moon Tranquility Cleansing Balm.
3. Take pleasure in small things
It’s important to look outside of our own busy life bubble and see the beauty in the world. Keep an eye out for new buds on the trees, a bird in flight, a gorgeous new display in a shop window. Listen to music, wear your favourite clothes, make a delicious meal, and revel in the pleasure of the little things in life. Fragrance can be an incredible mood lifter, so be liberal with your scent throughout January or choose a new blend. We like the modern, sensual lightweight floral of Byredo Rose of No Man’s Land. If you prefer a rich and spicy fragrance, try Malin+Goetz Dark Rum Eau de Parfum.
4. Get creative
Being creative is intrinsically human, and feeling free to express ourselves can help us to be happier. Forget about what that negative art or music teacher said decades ago, and try tapping into your natural creativity. We recommend Julia Cameron’s bestselling book The Artist’s Way, which details a 12-week programme to help anyone get on the path to being more creative.
Negative thoughts and feelings can derail our creativity and easily creep in during the darker months. To help with this, Jacqueline suggests trying to “get conscious: start to think about what you are thinking about and ask yourself ‘does this way of thinking work for or against me’.  If you are thinking negatively you will ultimately get a negative outcome, if you start to think in a more positive way you will get a positive outcome.”
Changing your makeup is one small way to be more creative, so try choosing a new eyeshadow and applying it deep into the crease and below the lash line. We love the huge selection of gorgeous colours in Nars Love Game Eyeshadow Palette Man Ray Holiday Edition. If you already experiment with WOW eyes, then change it up and go for a bright lip instead. We love Rodin’s amazing orange-red Lipstick in Tough Tomato.
5. Enjoy fresh air and sunlight
Even in the depths of a rainy, cold and grey British winter fresh air can be a salve for the soul. Well known to have a reviving effect, being outside can lift our mood and enliven our skin. Vitamin D comes from sunlight and is well documented to have a positive effect on our feelings, so it’s important to enjoy reviving rays whenever the rare sun makes an appearance.  January is also a great time for contemplation so head out for a walk and have a good, long think. Jacqueline suggests it could be time to “forgive yourself – no one needs to carry around guilt and shame, it zaps energy and creates negativity. Cut yourself some slack and remember that life is full of lessons to help us grow. We have to get things wrong to understand the right way.” Her tip “be kind to yourself, forgive yourself and move on.”
If the weather is just too ghastly to go out, then it might be time to run a reviving bath, try Ren Atlantic Kelp & Microalgae Anti-Fatigue Bath Oil, which contains mood-boosting magnesium, or the uplifting essential oil blend, Inner Strength by Aromatherapy Associates. Mimic the skin-reviving effects of the fresh air with a glow-boosting face mask like Clark’s Botanicals Intense Radiance Maskor Patchology FlashMasque Illuminate, lie back and think about the joys of the year ahead.
Most of all, find a way to see light in the dark days of winter and enjoy a happier, healthier January in 2018.
Read the full article here

Blue Monday

Did you know that today, the third Monday of January has been awarded the gloomy title of ‘Blue Monday’ due to a combination of post-Christmas blues, cold dark nights, and the arrival of unpaid credit card bills from all the Christmas and holiday spending.  It’s apparently the most miserable day of the year!  So to help you out if you are feeling a little blue I have something really cool in store for you.
Tonight I want you to come along to an Instagram Live session where I will be sitting in Space NK being interviewed by Beauty Editor, Nadine Baggott on how to ‘Think Happy’ this Blue Monday. Just simply pop onto Instagram, and it will be going live from the Space NK handle @spaceNK
So ‘Blue Monday’ better watch out because by the time we are done tonight, it will be your best Monday in January ever!
Have a great day and see you later!
Love,
Jacqueline x


Holiday Weight

If your luggage wasn’t the only thing that came back heavier from your Christmas holiday then you are not alone.
Many of my clients have come back from their holiday having put on a few pounds. We all know logically that this should not impact on our life but when we suffer with low self-esteem and poor body image, then putting on a few pounds starts to feel like a very big deal. We tell ourselves we have lost control and that we will never get this food thing ‘sorted’.
But the thing is I disagree. There is always a way.
First let me explain the truth about putting on a few pounds. No one is going to love you any less, you are not going to lose your job or your house and the world is not going to end. It’s highly likely that no one has even noticed your weight gain and your jeans being a little tight doesn’t mean that you are awful, weak-willed or pathetic.
When I ask my clients’ the question ‘What are you saying to yourself about this extra weight?’ I am hearing some pretty mean replies. They range from ‘I have really let myself go’ or ‘I can’t believe I have got so fat’ or ‘I am totally out of control’ to even worse; ‘I am disgusting’.
It makes me wince.
Because talking to yourself like is mean. Like really, really mean.
And you know what. It gets you no closer to your desired outcome. Result NIL.
The cycle is vicious.
We look at our bodies, choose nasty thoughts and in turn we generate feelings like anger, worthlessness, disappointment or hopeless. These feelings generate actions (of guess what) eating more food to solve our negative feelings and our outcome, yep, you know how it rolls, we just get bigger.
Enter, emotional eating…
We then decide to go on a ‘diet’ but we KNOW it will not work in the long term (and that this will perpetuate the cycle all over again) but we do it anyway.
We survive a few days on salad and water or protein only but then guess what.
We fall off our unsustainable wagon and head into the apple crumble shared over a night out with friends that was meant to be, um, shared…
But that’s ok because tomorrow you will start the diet again.
But that’s not ok because the diet wagon just doesn’t work.
You see, diet thinking is misled thinking. Take it out your mind.
Try a different way.
The first step in helping yourself out of this negative emotional eating cycle is to change your negative self-talk.
Negative self-talk like the stuff people are bringing into my office does not make anyone thin (or happy). If that were the case, you would already be thin (but probably not very happy).
So if being mean to you hasn’t worked, or got you thin, you have to start to think differently.
First off promise yourself you will not go on some crazy diet, go mental at the gym, and begin the Insanity Workout twice a day or only juice apples and carrots for the next 10 days.
Promise. Yourself.
Anything negative is not a sustainable answer.
Second, how about you try this radical piece of advice…
Live each day working on the basis that you will treat yourself with love and respect. You will be kind to you and choose thoughts that generate good feelings.
Remember that learning how to eat normally is not defined by what you eat, has nothing to do with ‘actions’ and is instead defined by how you think and in turn, how you feel about yourself.
You gotta get the thoughts right FIRST.
Trust me when I say that when your THOUGHTS are right the rest just follows and you know what…
That apple crumble just won’t look so exciting after all.
 


Festive Loneliness

Natural Health Magazine asked me how to help their readers who may feel down and lonely over the festive season. It’s a common issue as Christmas is portrayed to us as a fairy tale, where we all ‘should’ be happy and joyous. But what about the many people who feel sad and lonely? Here is my article.