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Beauty Inside Out

Event alert!

Will you join me on Tuesday 25th April at 6.30pm for a panel discussion on Beauty Inside And Out, with The Women’s Chapter, Telegraph Women and Space NK
Join me for an inspirational evening to discuss how to achieve beauty from the inside out, where i will be sitting alongside Claire Veto, Founder of award-winning Aurelia Probiotic Skincare and Bernadine Tay, Founder of Quinteassential Fine Teas.
The seated panel discussion and Q&A will be led by Telegraph Women editor Claire Cohen in the private event space at Space NK on Hans Crescent in Knightsbridge.
We plan, as speakers to share our own business journeys as well as give insights around how to achieve true beauty — from the inside out. We will also explore related topics around body image, confidence and self esteem.
Before and after the discussion, we will be treated to Quinteassential’s white elixir tea cocktails and fuelled with healthy plant-based treats from Nourish Kitchen, both women-led brands. And of course there will be bubbles, plenty of Champagne bubbles!
This glamorous, inspiring evening will be an opportunity to engage with women at the forefront of their industries, network with fellow professionals and entrepreneurs, and be inspired. Space NK will be providing special goody bags, so all in all, it’s an evening not to be missed!
Date: Tuesday, April 25, 2017
Time: 6pm for drinks, with panel discussion starting promptly at 6.30pm
Venue: Space NK, 40 Hans Cresent, SW1X 0LZ
Tickets: £30 per person, excluding VAT
About the Speakers…
Jacqueline Hurst
Jacqueline Hurst is a trailblazing ‘mind’ expert, knowledgeable public speaker and ground breaking life coach. Her worldwide success is based on her unique approach and specialist work with clients around body image, low confidence, anxiety, self esteem, addictions and other debilitating issues. She has been featured in leading media titles including The Sunday Times, The Huffington Post, The Telegraph, Harpers Bazaar, The Oprah Winfrey Network and regularly does talks internationally, for leading brands including Clinique, Eve Lom, Lulu Lemon, Sweaty Betty, Matches Fashion, Space NK and Liberty on issues of the mind.
Jacqueline’s inspiration to help people came from her own life and long-time struggle with drugs, alcohol, eating disorders, anxiety and crippling self esteem.
After hitting rock bottom in her mid 20s and having tried all kinds of therapy, she decided to start studying and find a way to help herself.
Her online school, The Life Class’ is also paving the way for a new generation of self-development for both people who wish to become life coaches themselves or, for those who want to simply learn how to live more optimally, by thinking, behaving and acting with a higher degree of emotional intelligence.
About Bernadine Tay
Tea guru, master blender and founder of Quinteassential Bernadine Tay, graduated in 2001 with a degree in biomedical science from King’s College, London, later moving into a marketing career. In 2008 she decided to pursue her true love – blending fine tea. After a period of intense self-study and mentoring with the renowned tea expert, Jane Pettigrew, she finally made her debut in the small stage: the farmer’s markets in the North West. For about three years, she honed her craft and refined her blends by talking to tea lovers from the quaint villages of Alderley Edge to the metropolitan city of Manchester.
Using her scientific knowledge to create unique blends with exquisite flavours, Bernadine has since won 7 Great Taste Awards out of 12 blends and is also a national tea judge.
After a year of hiatus due to an injury that almost paralysed her, Bernadine decided to unveil a new Quinteassential with renewed passion. Whether the refreshed brand is a symbol of a new Bernadine, it’s undeniably an amalgamation of all that she loves. Tea, travel, art, beauty and all good things preserved in unforgettable memories.
Claire Veto
Claire Veto is a dermatology expert and Founder of award-winning Aurelia Probiotic Skincare, a luxury probiotic range infused with BioOrganic botanical ingredients and essential oils. With a strong background in pharmaceuticals, Claire worked for one of the world’s leading global pharmaceutical and consumer healthcare companies, GlaxoSmithKline, before launching Aurelia in January 2013. Harnessing the power of botanicals from around the world, her unique formulas fuse BioOrganic plant extracts and flower essences with breakthrough science. Claire has been widely praised for her achievements in pushing the boundaries of natural and scientific skincare; in November 2014 she won a highly prestigious Cosmetic Executive Women (CEW) Award sponsored by Google for her success and was positioned 9th in the Natural Beauty Yearbook’s “25 Who’s Who in Natural Beauty”. Earlier that year, she was named one of Management Today’s “35 Women under 35 in Business” and the brand has won a host of product and brand awards including “Best New Brand” for unprecedented success in the biggest independent consumer voted beauty trial by The Ultimate Natural Beauty Bible and The Anti-Ageing Beauty Bible. Aurelia Probiotic Skincare has since been named as one of Walpole’s luxury Brands of Tomorrow, a prestigious achievement that has awarded Claire with luxury brand mentorship from top industry leaders.
About the Panel Host, Claire Cohen
Claire Cohen is Editor of Telegraph Women – an irreverent and intelligent section of The Telegraph, which offers news and opinion on everything from politics to parenting; business to sex.
When she’s not writing, Claire is a commentator on women’s issues, culture, social affairs and politics for Sky News, the BBC, Channel 5 and LBC Radio. She’s also just brewed her own beer, inspired by the Suffragettes.
Join us for this fabulous evening by purchasing your tickets here


De-Stress In 5 Steps

My friends at Bodyism asked me how to help their clients learn how to de-stress in 5 easy steps.  I wanted to share that article with you as I think this is apt for all of us!

Nowadays ‘stress’ is the most common cause of sickness leave from work. If you look back over the last week at all the conversations you have had with friends, colleagues and loved ones, how many of them, when you asked how they are, have responded with ‘Urgh, stressed’… Probably most. Master Life Coach, Jacqueline Hurst, tells us how to destress in 5 steps.

  1. Perspective. Sometimes its good to step back and ask yourself, “Is that going to make any difference in ten years’ time?” 90% of the time, the answer is no. Get perspective. Put the issue you face into perspective, accepting that most of the things we worry about are not life-or-death issues. Try to mentally shrink what’s worrying you, and it won’t seem like such a big deal after all.
  2. Balance your expectations. So many of us have sky-high expectations on ourselves, way higher than we would set it for anyone else. Whatever it is you are stressed about ask yourself how you would talk to a friend in this situation. Would you be yelling at her that she will never get it sorted out or is an idiot to have got into this situation or would you treat her with kindness and love? Exactly…treat yourself nicely and be kind with your thoughts and the stress will slip away. I would always advise a friend to destress over a cup of tea, to sit down take a breath and put this into a practice, a small step each day to be kind to yourself.
  3. Get to the root. Noticing that you are ‘stressed’ can actually be good for you because it’s a signal that you can either carry on doing what you are doing and getting the same results or that something is in need of change. I think the best way to look at stress being good for you is that it is simply a signal for change.
  4. Small changes can yield big results. First of all, our thoughts rule how we feel. It’s important to understand how we think creates our feelings so if we are feeling a feeling we don’t want to feel, like stress, we have to start thinking about things differently. We teach all our students at The Life Class how to think correctly because the truth is none of us were taught how to ‘think’ or deal with our ‘emotions’ at school and yet this is so important to understand fully that your thoughts create how you feel. If you are stressed the first thing to do is start by writing down your thoughts – get it out of your head and onto paper.
  5. Power to the word. Start to look at those thoughts. In other words are you choosing thoughts that feel good or feel stressful? Let’s say you are stressed about a presentation you need to do for work. If you are thinking ‘I can’t do this’ you won’t be feeling great. Instead you need to start thinking about it differently to create a different feeling. Start challenging yourself on the opposite in other words start looking for evidence to prove to yourself, why you absolutely CAN do it.

See the full article here


The Wellness Report

Many of you will know Matches Fashion is one of my very favourite shops and it was an honour once again to be interviewed by my good friend Eve Kalinik for their Wellness Report. The interview is about being healthy in your body through a healthy mind.  If February means you are already loosing your will then have a read of this article to help you get your mojo back.

The new year brings with it the eager promise of self-improvement. Do resolutions such as going to the gym, quitting sugar, cutting down on alcohol or taking more time out sound familiar? While all of these can bring positive changes, many of us have forgotten about good intentions within a matter of months, or even weeks. Fast-paced lifestyles mean we often expect a quick fix or a magic pill. But what if the secret to ‘new year, new you’ was a simple resolution: ‘know yourself’? I caught up with Jacqueline Hurst, a life coach and hypnotherapist, to discuss how to make positive life changes. Plus, discover three key lessons in creating change that lasts.

Start as you mean to go on

Eve Kalinik: ‘Yes, it is about tuning into yourself. We tend to be in this “add on” culture, searching for the next new super food, supplement or diet, when really it is about stripping it back. If you just bring it back to basics and start eating foods in their most natural state without labels, boxes or bags then you won’t go far wrong. I dissuade clients from diets and haphazard elimination of food groups, as these rarely work and can leave you nutritionally depleted.’

Jacqueline Hurst: ‘Unless you get your mind right, the outcome won’t be what you want it to be. Change your mindset – if you come from a place of love you will get a lot more done rather than aggressively cutting things out. If you put restrictions on people they will automatically want to rebel, so it is important to pull it back and think about where you are coming from – health and self-love over restriction and pressure.’

Cut out the noise

JH: ‘These messages will only pull on your insecurities if you let them. If you are in the right kind of headspace, you can see those images and think positively about them rather than beating yourself up. You have a choice to look at social media or magazine images and compare yourself. Or you can look at it and think, “Wow, she looks great and obviously worked hard for that.” It doesn’t have to affect you, if you change your outlook.’

EK: ‘As women, we have a lot of pressure to keep it all together. But this is where we tend to overcomplicate things, particularly when it comes to food. And it is not about being 100% perfect all the time. If you make positive informed decisions about what you are eating, how you are exercising or the way you perceive situations most of the time, then that’s a good thing. Be mindful and realistic in the way you approach this, then you won’t beat yourself up so much or revert to old habits.’

Take a holistic approach

EK: ‘We have to think of ourselves as a whole entity rather than compartmentalising. The whole body influences the whole body. Around 90% of our serotonin (happy hormone) production is in the gut, so mental clarity, focus and ultimately happiness comes not just from the mind but the gut as well. Health and wellbeing is always multi-layered, but once you tap into what makes you tick you can see things change quickly.’

JH: ‘It is also about giving your body a break when it needs it and having that true connection of mind and body. Knowing yourself can help you get the life you really want.’

Read the full article here


Control Your Tech

As many of you are aware matchesfashion.com is one of my favourate shops in the world! Their shops are amazing and their online Wellness Report is one of my go-to’s for all the latest on fashion, wellness, travel and so much more.  I always love working with them and this week they gave me a call to ask if I would write an article for them about technology and how we can use it to balance our mind.  This was a great article to write and I hope you like it…

As a life coach, I spend a lot of my time talking about switching off, unplugging and generally taking a break from technology. One of my favourite sayings is: ‘Anything will work again once it’s been unplugged for a little while, including you.’ We live in a 24/7 world where we are constantly connected, and yet if we do not learn how to be in charge of our tech, it can take total charge of us. Many of us are unable to switch off and we blame technology for our anxiety to ‘keep up’, although it isn’t the technology that is to blame. We just haven’t mastered it. I like to think of technology like a puppy that you have to train to work with you, not against you. In other words, you set the rules and the boundaries, not the other way around. It is always up to us to choose how ‘connected’ we want to be with a little conscious thinking. This year, resolve to take control of your tech and be calmer in the process.

Meditate

Why not start with an app that makes you re-connect, instead of disconnect? A great place to start for calm and clarity is Headspace (headspace.com). It’s a meditation app you simply download and listen to for 10 minutes every day. The benefits of meditation reportedly include higher energy, more focus and greater productivity, leading to a calmer state of mind. Production of the stress hormone cortisol is decreased, meaning the body is able to deal with stress better when it does occur. Seventy-five per cent of insomniacs who started a daily meditation programme were able to fall asleep within 20 minutes of going to bed, while 60% of anxiety-prone people showed marked improvements in anxiety levels after six to nine months. In short, it brings a little peace in a busy world.

COMMUNICATE

Relying on convenient voiceless communication, such as messaging apps, can mean that subtle nuances get lost and relationships can become more detached over time. Messages can be misconstrued and ‘read receipts’ can lead to feelings of rejection if they are not responded to with expedience. Our wellbeing is based on human connection and face-to-face interaction, so even if physical contact is not possible, video-calling apps such as FaceTime or Skype will help nurture that human connection, and thus counter feelings of loneliness or isolation.

REST

Going to bed and waking up at the same time every day boosts the body’s circadian rhythm and promotes good-quality sleep. It’s like brain training for the conscious and the subconscious. The bedroom is one place where switching off your tech is always a good idea – blue light, from mobile phones and other devices, boosts attention, which is counter-productive at night time and can lead to anxiety, insomnia and poor-quality sleep. But you can use your tech to your advantage – which is where the iPhone comes in. Apple’s new ‘bedtime’ function will help you keep your daily routine on track. You simply answer a few simple questions to set up a recurring wake-up alarm and a reminder when it’s bedtime.

REBALANCE

Place a firm focus on your mental health for 2017, no matter how busy you feel. If you are struggling with relationships or want to learn how to live a happier, more conscious life, you can make time in even the tightest of schedules with an online course, such as The Life Class (thelifeclass.com). Even five minutes’ training on your journey to work each day will make a real difference over time. It is about arming your mind with the tools and techniques to rid yourself of perceived barriers and start living a happy, fulfilled life.

Jacqueline Hurst is a life coach and founder of The Life Class, and is based in London (jacquelinehurst.com)

Read the full article on Matches Fashion here


Resolutions

So my gorgeous friend, the wonderful Madeline Shaw asked me if I would write a piece for her blog on how to set new years resolutions for a happy and healthy 2017. It was of course my pleasure. Take a read of the article here and don’t foget to check out her amazing website full of yummy recipes…

Setting New Year’s Resolutions for a Happy and Healthy 2017

Deciding what goals to set can be a little tricky so Jacquline Hurst, a Life Coach, public speaker, therapist, and founder of The Life Class has kindly written some ideas for setting new year’s resolutions for a happy and healthy 2017!
New Year’s Resolutions are always a great way to start the year on the right foot. The one imperative to remember about making resolutions is to make them fun and realistic and not heavy and stressful!
Making resolutions doesn’t have to be about drastic changes and major life overhauls, it can be just one change that is small and simple.  When you set your resolutions it is good to remember that any journey begins with a single step so even a baby step, is a step.  It is also good to remember that no skilled sailor became skilled overnight and that working towards a goal can take time so please be kind and patient with yourself as you work through what it is you want to change.
Setting new year’s resolutions also does not have to be focussed only on the outside. It could be that you want to change something from the inside and gain a happier state of mind. Being a life coach I believe that a happy mind = a happy life so here are my top 7 ideas for some new year’s resolutions this 2017!

1. Love and accept yourself – fully

I truly believe if we learn to accept the good and bad parts of ourselves life becomes much more enjoyable.  I always tell my clients that “acceptance is always the answer to the problem”!  Once you find out who you really are inside, you can begin to accept and love yourself fully.  Once you truly love yourself from the inside what other people think becomes less of an issue.  A great new years resolution would be to learn to love yourself and accept yourself this year. It is the best work you can do for yourself and is the key to the door of a happy life.

2. Live for you

A huge part of many of my client’s lives are taken up by taking care of everyone else leaving them no time for themselves. It is no wonder they are exhausted and stressed out. In my opinion when it gets like this, it is important to check your motives and reasons for doing things for example, are you saying yes to people because you are worried that they might not like you if you say no?  A good resolution this year would be to remember that you cannot make everyone in your life happy and to try to begin to make the best decision for yourself (first) instead of others, you will see how life gets easier (and a lot less stressful!).

3. Quit Comparing

We live in a society where all we really get to see are people’s highlight reels and not necessarily the truth.  Social media is full of six packs, idyllic beach scenes, yachts, perfect pets and immaculate fashion styling.  The thing is, it’s very likely that this isn’t real every day life for the person you are looking at.  It is so important to remember that we all have ups, downs and struggles in life just like everyone else and yet no one is posting about that stuff! A good resolution this year would be to remind yourself that comparing your life to others is a total waste of your own time, you will find that you will choose to stop, effortlessly.

4. Don’t compromise too much

Compromise is required in pretty much all relationships because we are all different and have different wants, needs and desires. Compromise is a good thing most of the time if the compromising is equal on both sides. The problem occurs if you give up your wants and needs the majority of the time in any one relationship, whether it be with a friend, lover, family member etc.,. A good resolution here would be to evaluate all any relationships that feel tough and decide if it is really healthy for you to be a part of it or, what you might need to do differently to recalibrate the compromising.

5.  Soul food

I really do believe that we are all born with something that we are amazing at. Whatever your passion, or whatever you enjoy in life, make a resolution to feed your soul with what inspires you. Inspire means in-spirit and you will know when you are doing something you feel inspired by because your spirit lifts. If you are not sure what your passion is then start to try new things and find different activities until you find a few that give you that feeling of real happiness inside. As Dr Wayne Dyer once said ‘don’t die with your music still inside you’.  Make a resolution to start to feed your soul.

6. Travel!

Traveling creates a sense of freedom and opens your eyes to how big the world really is.  Whenever I sit on a plane and look down and see the tiny houses it is always a reminder of vast and great the universe is. It helps to remind me of the ‘big picture’.  Travelling also helps to open your mind to different cultures, ways of life, landscapes, animals – we can learn so much just by changing location!  Make a resolution to travel more, to open up your world and see more of this wonderful planet.

7. Worry less

I teach my clients that worry is a feeling, created by a thought.  Once we realise that worrying will not change our outcome, we can begin to accept whatever is going to happen.  No amount of worry is going to help you, it can only ever hold you back. Worrying doesn’t make you better.  Make a resolution to consciously start thinking about what you are thinking about to change the negative thoughts that are creating the worry into happier thoughts that start to create the calm.
These are such great ideas from Jacqueline, thank you so much for writing your tips on setting New Year’s resolutions for a happy and healthy 2017! You can find out more information about Jacqueline on her website The Life Class.
See the full article here


Smart Mind Smart Life

So, part two of the Smart Mind Smart Life Plan hit the Telegraph yesterday and if you missed it you can see it here. Don’t forget if you missed part one, it’s on the blog too so just check in and it’s there. Enjoy!

After kick-starting your new exercise regime and your new approach to fitness last week there’s the million-dollar question: how do you encourage yourself to keep going?
Getting into the habit of exercise takes practice. So have faith and remember to keep your mind right.
Pre-plan exercise into your week. Work through the exercises in this programme and, in particular, work on your mind. This can prove trickier than the physical exercises, as our minds tend to resist change, and can conjure up any number of reasons for maintaining the status quo – even if that status quo is something with which you are not happy.
Taking the best care of yourself, through healthy lifestyle choices and enjoyable exercise, is the most rewarding form of preventative medicine there isAlice Hart-Davis
But here’s the thing. You and you alone are in charge of your mind, and with practice, you can adapt the way it thinks about anything – including exercise, and your approach to food.
Above all, act like a grown-up, and take responsibility. Taking the best care of yourself, through healthy lifestyle choices and enjoyable exercise, is the most rewarding form of preventative medicine there is. Keep your muscles strong, keep the range in your joints, move more efficiently and you will keep your body in shape and your mind sharp.
This week, our plan focuses on several top mind strategies for maintaining motivation, focus and interest, and gives you new exercises to stretch your capability once the basic exercises from last week start to seem easy. It also encourages you to think through any issues you might have with “emotional eating”.
As last week, the exercise expertise comes from personal trainer Christina Howells and the mind mastery from life coach Jacqueline Hurst.

Learn new ways to motivate yourself

It is essential to find a way to become passionate about exercise. It is so well worth it, and it’s the best natural way to enhance mood, reduce stress levels, build confidence and help fight depression. Creating a habit of exercise takes repetition, a little discipline to push past any initial resistance and a decision to commit to the process. Repetition builds a habit, and makes the new behaviour become a part of you.

  1. Make exercise a priority, and be consistent in what you do. Put your exercise sessions in your diary and regard them as important appointments that you need to keep, like an important business meeting. You have a duty of care towards yourself to stay as healthy as you can.
  2. Try pairing up and exercising with a friend. You are much less likely to bail out if you feel you are letting someone down.
  3. Create a workout playlist of music that motivates you and makes you want to move.
  4. Dress for success – get some workout clothes that you feel good in.
  5. Change your routines to avoid boredom, try new types of activities (again, take a friend with you).
  6. Be prepared for distractions and don’t think it’s “all or nothing”. If something gets in the way of your scheduled exercise session, then find a way to fit a shorter workout in instead. It is always better to do something than nothing (again, take a friend).
  7. Create “triggers” for exercise by planning sessions around another daily habit. Putting out your gym kit before you go to bed, to remind you to put it on, or take it with you in the morning, can do the trick (again, take a friend).
  8. Don’t overthink it. Just do it.

Focus on consistency, not results

Of course, you are working out for a reason, and hoping for visible changes in your body. But try to think of starting an exercise programme not as “six weeks to a new you” but as the first stage of your new lifestyle. It is good to have goals but it is really important not to become obsessed the results but rather learn to enjoy the process, be present in the moment and be grateful for the ability to be able to move your body freely.

Drop the comparisons

It’s never helpful. There will always be someone fitter, stronger, in better shape or better looking than you – perhaps in your gym, perhaps in your own family (and don’t get us started on the perils of social media, which could be designed to cause envy). These people are not you, and they don’t have your life, your body or your concerns. Comparing yourself to others will only create anxiety and lead to endless negative thoughts. So, compare and despair? Or move beyond this, focusing on your own self-worth? Your choice. It’s really difficult to drop the urge to score yourself against others, but once you can do it, you’ll find it is a liberation, like putting down a heavy burden.

Train smarter, not harder

If you have done the sort of exercise in the past that focused on duration/ the more the better, there may be a niggling voice at the back of your mind wondering whether short bouts of HIIT (high intensity interval training) and a few press ups and squats are really enough to get you fit. Tell that voice this: fitness is not about the time you put in or about beating yourself up. It’s about doing the sort of work that has been shown to give good results. Remind yourself that HIIT is a brilliant strategy and is proven to work for people of all ages and fitness levels. Remind yourself that bodyweight workouts not only make you move better, look better and feel better, but are also functional to life and daily activities.
Read the full article here


Let It Go

As we get close to Christmas now is a great time to talk about how to “let it go”.
Holiday season is not the time to be stressed, unless of course you want to be.
Handing away your power, feeling like crap and then blaming everyone else is not my idea of a break.
May I be so bold as to say I doubt it is yours either.
So how do we “let it go” when we are surrounded by family and friends who we believe ‘push our buttons’.
Here are my top 5 tips:-

  1. Throw away your manual. It goes something like this;  I arrive early so you should do the same. I give great presents so you should do the same.  I make and bring a great cake to your party, so you should do the same.  I would never say those things so you should do the same.  Get my drift? Everyone does things differently and it’s when we expect others to live by our manual that we hit emotional pain.  Pain for us, not them.  Just because it may not be the same way you would do it, doesn’t make them ‘wrong’ it just makes them and their way ‘different’ from you. Let go of the manual and you will find an instant stress relief. Let it go.
  2. It’s not that important.  You may want to remind yourself that those ‘things’ you are stressing about i.e. the perfect present, the perfectly set table or the perfectly decorated tree are not really that important at all. What’s important is the people you are with, the relationships you are building and the connections you are making. Keep it real.
  3. Be realistic.  Setting unrealistic expectations create stress. If you have to see 10 people but only really have time to see 6 of them, get realistic and start changing things around to fit your schedule in a stress free way. If you need to say ‘no’ more then so be it. This holiday season is time for a break so dear reader so maybe, it would be really kind, to actually give yourself one.
  4. Look for the good. Instead of looking for other people’s differences, try this Christmas to start looking for the good. Everyone has good inside them.  For example, instead of looking at your sister-in-law and thinking about how selfish she is because she didn’t x, y or z, do it differently and start to find the good, think about what a great mother she is or what a wonderful wife she is to your sibling. Seriously, let it go and look for the good.  It feels so much better.
  5. Be in the moment.  Time goes quickly. Kids grow up fast, parents get older and life moves on. When we learn to savior the moment instead of ‘doing’ the next thing on our list, we start to find peace.  The holiday season is about slowing down and enjoying some serious quality time.  Be in your moment. Let it go, relax, slow down and give yourself a present by being present.

I hope you have an amazing, fun, wonderful, happy, enjoyable chilled out Christmas!
And don’t forget to ‘let it go’!
Sent with love
 
Jacqueline
 
 


Surviving Christmas!

My friends at Sweaty Betty asked me this week if I could share my top 7 tips to survive Christmas. Christmas can be a very stressful time of year for some, so if you are stressing about Christmas coming, you will love this short and to the point article! Enjoy.
7 Tips For Surviving Christmas
It’s the most wonderful time of the year, but the combination of mince pies galore, gifting and extended family socialising can be on the stressful time. To stop any stress for the rest of December we have called upon life coach Jacqueline Hurst to help you navigate the festive season.
Schedule some you time. Making time for yourself is imperative over the Christmas season. There is always so much going on, so to stop yourself burning out make sure you schedule some time for a yoga class or a gentle walk.
Let it go. No I don’t mean watch Frozen for the 100th time this Christmas. If you’re finding yourself struggling in any way (the kids are misbehaving, the dog has pulled over the tree or your mum keeps calling) my top tip is to take a moment to call a friend and vent it out! Venting is a very good tactic to stop, breathe and proceed, you’ll find everything seems a lot calmer once you’ve spoken about it.
Just say no. Learning to say no isn’t as hard as it sounds and just remember you don’t have to go to every festive event just because it’s Christmas. Place your boundaries, embrace a night in and don’t be ashamed if you turn down that fifth glass of mulled wine, you don’t want to end up exhausted.
Make a change. We all have that one task we hate doing from peeling sprouts to wrapping gifts. My tip, tackle it in a new way as a fresh approach just might make a difference. For example, if you dread having to send out cards, split the list with someone to save time.
Drop unrealistic expectations this holiday and give yourself a break. Nothing is perfect in life, the mince pies might be slightly burnt, the wrapping paper may have teared slightly, you might have drunk a little more Baileys than you planned, be gentle with yourself and remember you are human!
Focus on what’s most important. This is a great time of year to focus on what’s most important to you. If you’re overwhelmed with dozens of cards to send out, ask yourself, which are the 10 most important? Then email the rest.
Remember to have fun!  We can get so wrapped up (excuse the pun) in making sure everyone else is happy that we can forget to enjoy ourselves. Don’t forget during this season to also share the joy.
Jacqueline Hurst is a master life coach and clinical hypnotherapist. She has been featured on the Oprah Winfrey Network, The Sunday Times, Harpers Baazar and The Daily Telegraph. Jacqueline is also the founder of the Life Class, an online personal course for self development. 

Self Sabotage

The super cool girl gang at Get The Gloss called this week to ask me if I would help their readers identify self sabotage. It’s a very common issue and one that can totally change around once you understand the ‘why’.
If you are a self saboteur then this article is for you!  Here it is below…

Do you ever feel guilty about putting yourself first? You’re not alone. For Self-Care Week, we asked the experts for their top tips for putting a stop to your self-care sabotaging ways

Do you ever feel bad about making time for yourself? You’re not alone, we’re sure this will sound like a familiar story for many. Life can feel like a never-ending to-do list and for lots of people, it can feel counterintuitive to put ourselves on the top of it from time to time.
So why could our self-sabotaging ways be getting in the way of our happiness and our health? According to life coach and GTG Expert Jacqueline Hurst, the reasons are wide-ranging. “Self-sabotage is when we say that we want something but then go about making sure it doesn’t happen – this can either be a conscious or a subconscious process,” she explains. “So many of us feel guilty about implementing self-care into our lives mainly due to how we have been brought up, the society we live in, our culture, belief system, gender etc. – there are a number of factors. We are in a society today that gives us a warped idea of ourselves. We are fed information that means we have to keep pushing harder, working harder, working out harder, dieting harder…it’s no surprise so many people don’t feel good enough. Taking time to look after yourself when you don’t feel good enough isn’t going to happen – that’s why mindset is so important.”
What’s the source of these sorts of self-esteem sapping mindsets? “I think we don’t value ourselves enough and we don’t like ourselves enough. When we love ourselves, the less nonsense we tolerate,” says Jacqueline. “The main reasons for self-sabotage behaviour could be down to a few things like: a) a fear of failure b) an unconscious need to be in control c) feeling like you aren’t good enough or d) a fear of success.”
Feeling like we’re not actually worth putting in the effort to look after is one reason and another may be not wanting to face up to the reality of what could happen as we get older.

Could you be a self-care saboteur?

According to Jacqueline, there are usually patterns of behaviour which can act as indicators. Signs include: “Making plans and never following through, talking about what you want to do but never actually ever ‘getting around to it’ and procrastinating a lot.” Its signs can cause stress in both your professional and personal life too. “Common self-sabotaging behaviours include dating men who are unavailable, taking jobs whose pay doesn’t reflect your experience, not being able to say ‘no’ and negative thinking,” explains Jacqueline.
It can also prove useful to look at your diary over the last month and take a tally of how many evenings or mornings you spent incorporating some much-needed self-care into your routine. “The most common manifestation is not carving out the time either to take an exercise class or to carry out a nourishing skincare regime,” says Lucy. Taking stock of your self-care schedule can often make for an insightful and eye-opening read.
Challenge the hell out of the negativity

How can you put a stop to your self-sabotaging ways?

Essentially, it all comes down to cultivating healthier and happier mindsets, but be aware that this takes time and patience. After all, we’re talking about retraining your mind to break perhaps lifelong habits. “I’ve been working in the field as a life coach for over 13 years now and the best way to overcome any type of self-sabotage behaviour is to first get conscious as to what the behaviour is,” recommends Jacqueline. “In other words, you have to observe yourself to be clear of what exactly your pattern is.” She adds, “You have to look at why you are doing what you are doing and start there. Then a great idea is to look for evidence to disprove the thoughts you have that are creating the pain. For example, if you keep saying ‘I won’t go for that amazing job because I will never get it’, instead of looking at all the lies you tell yourself as to why you wouldn’t be able to, start looking for evidence as to why you would be able to. Challenge the hell out of the negativity.”
Some easy yet effective first steps? “Start to say no more, start to ‘choose’ to love yourself more and put boundaries in place,” says Jacqueline. “If you can even try one of these things, you will start taking better care of yourself.”
It’s the small changes that tend to yield big results comments Lucy Beresford – nothing is more likely to suck the joy out of self-care than viewing it more as chore than leisure. “It’s about setting small, achievable goals every day rather than taking on too big a challenge. 20 minutes of mediation or a 15 minute skincare regime is do-able – having 17 different things to do before bedtime is not!” Surrounding yourself with others who are taking steps to reach a fitness or wellness goal could also help provide extra strength. “Joining a health club or going on a retreat or bootcamp surrounded by healthy people actually encourages one to ameliorate the bad behaviour and realise the benefits,” she explains. “See focussing on self-care as a sign of loving yourself,” she adds. “Show yourself that you value this one body you have and be grateful for it – it’s a great motivator to change behaviour. Meditation, mindfulness, deep breathing and exercise give oneself private time for reflection and to take breath and head space in a very stressful and hectic life.”

The final word?

Ultimately, that it is possible to break a cycle of self-sabotage and how you best combat it depends on how ingrained the belief is. “I think if people truly are stuck in a rut and are unable to change their patterns they should get help. We are in a society today where talking about it is less and less frowned upon. Sometimes we need a little push in the right direction and we are well on our way. Don’t sit in pain. I also think we are here for much bigger things than to be mean to ourselves. We were not born to sit around and beat ourselves up and stay small. Think big and live big – you only get one life.”


Boost Your Self Esteem

As some of you may know I often work with Bodyism discussing body love, balance and how to live a happy healthy life.  It’s great to collaborate with people who are like minded! Recently they asked me if I would share my top tips to help boost self esteem. It was of course my pleasure.
If you find yourself a little low on self esteem this month, then this is the article for you…

5 Ways To Instantly Boost Your Self-Esteem

Life nowadays can seem like a constant juggle. We are bombarded with unreal images daily on social media, TV and magazines and we can all feel a little overwhelmed, as if we haven’t quite reached our full potential.
A little bit of this is normal, however, if you feel constantly held back by a sense of self-doubt, it could be more than just the occasional ‘off day’ we all suffer with from time to time. Preventing you from ever achieving your full potential, low self-esteem can be both a debilitating and miserable. Thankfully, for those who do suffer from self-esteem issues, there are a wealth of tips and tricks you can try to help break the cycle and build your confidence back.
The term self-esteem refers to how we view ourselves. Self-esteem is the overall opinion we have and hold about ourselves and the value we place on ourselves as people. Low self-esteem is all about how we view ourselves internally – what we believe about ourselves – and is based on negativity: for example, ‘I’m unlovable’ or ‘I’m useless’ or ‘I’m worthless’. Of course, most of us have mixed opinions of ourselves, but if your overall opinion is that you are inadequate or inferior, if you feel that you have no true worth and are not entitled to the good things in life – that you are ‘undeserving’ – then this means your self-esteem is low.
Low self-esteem can be due to the beliefs you have about yourself which you think are fact, but in reality are only really thoughts. These beliefs and thoughts are based on the experiences you’ve had in life, and the messages that these experiences have given you about the person that you are.
As low self-esteem is based on thought process rather than fact, it is really important to gather all the thoughts you hold about yourself that are negative and then start to look for evidence to prove that the opposite is true. For example, if you believe that you are not ‘lovable’, instead of finding evidence to prove this thought true, you need to start looking for evidence to prove this is not true. You could ask yourself instead ‘Who does love me?’ – you will be able to say ‘my mum, my dad, my friends, my family, my boyfriend’ etc. It becomes hard to believe a thought when you have evidence to prove the opposite is actually true!
If you are suffering with low self-esteem here are my top 5 tips to overcome it:

  1. Question your thoughts.
    Are you conscious of what you are thinking? Thoughts create feelings, so starting to think carefully about your thoughts is key. Positive thoughts create positive feelings.
  2. Be kind to yourself.
    Tell yourself kind, loving statements that you would say to someone you love. Imagine your best friend next to you talking about you as a person – they would say lovely things like ‘She’s funny, kind, thoughtful’ etc. When you start looking at yourself from a friend’s point of view you will be amazed at how good you really are.
  3. The comparison is the thief of joy.
    You are unique and perfect just as you are! Comparison is a waste of your own time. Instead remember that someone else’s beauty does not mean the absence of your own.
  4. Gratitude is key to feeling better.
    When you feel down, think about all the wonderful things in your life and the things you have achieved – you’ll soon realize you are pretty special! You cannot feel grateful and miserable at the same time..
  5. Perfection does not exist
    Good enough, is really good enough.