You know the one I mean right?
The inner voice, the self critic, the little gremlin, the one that is hard pushed to be nice.
If you’ve ever tried to meditate, you know that sometimes that inner voice just won’t shut up.
It constantly delivers a running commentary on your likes, dislikes, fears, anxieties, hopes, and dreams.
It projects into the future and goes over the past.
Over and over and over that little voice just keeps going. It’s like a little puppy dog that is constantly looking for the next thing and the next thing and then the next thing.
And, if someone told you they heard voices in their head, you might think they were crazy but the reality is, we all have a voice in our head and yet most of the time it just isn’t kind.
An unmanaged mind is never kind.
The negative inner self critic is tough and yet at the same time, it is simply the wrong set of beliefs that we allow to go around and around in head.
It’s like we pick up a belief one day which is something we have either learnt as kids or taken on ourselves, which we have never challenge, and then we live accordingly. We literally walk around unconscious to what we are thinking.
Things like ‘I am not good enough’, ‘I need to please everyone’, ‘I must not say no or else they will hate me’.
It’s like wearing the wrong set of glasses. For years.
So how do we chillax the inner critic? What do we need to do in order to make the change from the heavy negative to the chilled out neutral.
Here’s a quick 3 step solution.
- Become aware of the voice. Becoming aware is imperative. Get conscious as to what you are thinking.
- Learn to observe. Simply observe what you are thinking for example ‘I am thinking that they won’t like me’
- Challenge the hell out of it!
This 3-step solution is an important step in personal growth.
Yes it takes a little effort and yes it takes a little time and yet, when we become aware of that voice, like truly and fully aware, we can then retrain ourselves to think and therefore live better.
You don’t have to believe everything you think, but you do have to be aware of it.
Especially if you want a choice as to how you want to feel.
And the choice dear reader is always yours.
Thoughts become things. Choose the good ones.