People are always looking for validation, but unfortunately lots of people are looking in the wrong place. I have met a lot of people who think they can gain validation through material items, or by how much money they have in the bank, this couldn’t be further from the truth. People get this idea because they see the rich and famous people plastered all over social media and hold the untrue belief that their material success is them being ‘valid’. Except, validation only comes from within so trying to fill that hole with something material is just not going to work.
It’s quite common for me to speak to clients who feel as though they have a low self worth. People struggle with validation and trying to find their place in society but more often than not they end up looking for it in money. People attach a lot of meaning to money and it can have an impact on your social status, people see it as a marker of who you are. This is a really bad way of thinking about validation. Just because someone has money, it doesn’t mean they are kind, warm, open hearted, honest etc. It just means they have money!
In order to get a sense of self worth and validation you need to look within. There is no external factor that can help you achieve these things. This is an issue that a lot of people can’t seem to grasp. They will go to the ends of the earth looking for something to validate them but all along the answer was within themselves. Finding peace and purpose needs to come from your own self validation. You can have all the money in the world but it still is not going to change how you think. You need to put yourself in that positive mindset in order to bring a sense of worth to yourself.
Don’t let anyone tell you differently, the only place you need to look for validation is inward. This is where the greatest sense of validation is going to come from. Any feeling of self worth that comes from money and possessions is only a shadow of the feeling you will get from finding it within. Have confidence and love yourself, that is the greatest give that you can give to boost your self worth and self validation. If you do this then I can guarantee it will improve the way you feel. You are great and deserve to feel validated in your being, don’t let anyone tell you differently.