What to do when you can’t fix something
This week I’m talking about the journey of trying to fix something in your life even when you feel that it’s not possible.
Often when people come to me about problems they have, they want a quick solution to get rid of the negativity in their lives. Every time I have to remind them that the only person who has the power to get themselves out of this funk, is themselves – via their mindset. You are the only one who can truly make the decision to think and act more positively and I think that is an empowering statement that everyone should understand and remember. You have to fix your brain and train yourself to be a more positive thinker, when you can’t control the situation you’re in at least you can control how you think about it. This is the key point that I try to teach people with my life coaching sessions by showing them how.
Day by Day
One of the best ways to tackle a problem is to break it down. It can seem overwhelming when you look at an issue in your life and keep bringing it back to the same big picture. The suggestion that I make to the people who choose to come and see me is to simply take it day by day. A mantra that I like to use is, ‘just for today’. When you break the problem down into bite sized pieces it ends up taking a lot of the fear out of the situation and can allow you to positively focus on solutions to the predicament you are in.
Open for Learning
The stress and anxiety you feel when there is a problem you can’t fix can either make or break you. But it’s just as important to remember that even if think it is breaking you at first, it is always something that can make you in the end. The sun will always rise tomorrow, so you will always have a new opportunity to face the challenges that lie ahead of you. There will always be something amazing to learn from your experience, good or bad. The key to achieving happiness and getting on the road to solving your problem is learning from every experience you have. Even if you believe you are in a situation that you think is going to break you, there are things you can learn from it to see how actually, it could be the making of you.
It’s always best to be open and honest about your problems, and like I said before, taking it day by day is going to be the best thing for your mental health. Re-energising your thought process and learning the skills to shift to a more positive vantage, is key to not only achieving happiness but facing life and everything that lies ahead on the road of life.
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